Along with the big figures, experience and maturity in itself is a turn on.
But in routine life when it feels slightly awkward to speak out one’s interest, plays its role and makes the interested ones gathered up.
It’s not just a reaction to externalities, though; extra life experience has taught these men to value romance differently. But the men themselves are often looking for something—not necessarily serious (though that’s not out of the realm)—but certainly more substantive.
The success of any relationship depends upon entering into it eyes-open, whether it’s traditional marriage, an app-facilitated hookup, or the popularly discussed, often misunderstood understanding between Sugar Babies and Sugar Daddies.
Observer spoke with two women, both members of the service The first woman we talked to, Katheryn—a petite, 28-year-old blonde whose self-described bubbliness is balanced by a spunky brand of self-deprecation—comes from that part of the Atlantic Coast where Southern propriety meets beach-life ease.
For starters, the vast majority of men they’ve encountered via Secret Benefits have gone out of their way to be respectful.
Both women surmise that men who use Sugar Baby services are conscious of the popular conception of their motives, and are therefore even more determined to prove themselves gentlemen.
But, she says, “Whether you show up with 0 or sunflowers, I just want to know you care enough to pay attention.”Much like the many men prize just being in the presence of a vibrant, attractive, interesting younger woman, the women of Secret Benefits often gain something worth more than money by keeping company with these highly successful men.
If you are a cub looking for cougars or a cougar looking for a younger sweet boy, is your best choice.“I paid for dates, food, apartment.” Financial benefits aside, “it’s just nice to have a guy that doesn’t need you to pay for Lana, 25, impulsively created her first profile at 19 after seeing a Sugar Baby segment on the news.As a New Yorker with a giddy predilection for risk-taking (“I’ve always been ‘the wild friend,’” she says), she saw nothing but upside—but still did her research.The reason of its remarkable success is its user friendly approach.It not only helps providing multiple choices of hot looking cougars and handsome boys, it also lets interested people find each other in the area closer to their location.One of the many common threads that emerged between Katheryn and Lana was their selectivity—a choosiness not based on wealth or material enticements, but on the man’s character, which both women feel can be largely assessed before agreeing to meet a potential Sugar Daddy in person. If he assumes vast riches compensate for poor conversational skills, he’s out.