When I was a junior in college, a woman called “The Princeton Mom” wrote into our school newspaper telling undergraduate women to “Find a husband on campus before you graduate.”“Forget about having it all, or not having it all, leaning in or leaning out,” she said.We had more important things to worry about, like the alarming decay rate of our attractiveness.I almost forgot about the Princeton Mom until last month, when international headlines went nuts over the new French president elect and his wife.
And a 30-year-old man is more likely to respond to a message from a 50-year-old woman than a message from any other age group.
When women make the first move, the age gap dating norm is reversed.
At first blush, things didn’t look so hot: 61% of conversations take place between an older man and a younger woman, and in almost half of them, the age gap is at least five years older.
The older-woman-younger-man combo is significantly more rare (appearing in less than one-third of all conversations), and in only 12% of these is the woman at least five years older.
When women start conversations, they tend to message men closer to their own age.
By 55, they’ll send more than half their messages to men at least 4 years their junior.They have more interesting jobs and hobbies, and their profiles are just …no stupid selfie-only profiles.”Did that explain it?I asked my friend Trevor, a 28-year-old mathematician, what he made of it.“Well to be honest,” said Trevor, “I usually go for older women.Men tend to message women significantly younger than they are.