Do you really have the energy, emotionally or physically, to see this endeavor through to a first date, let alone some semblance of a relationship?
Does this human, with thoughts and feelings like mine, want or really need my opinion of them?
Would I say this in front of my parents, or theirs? Here’s a good example, taken from my personal archives, to the right.
Dev’s copy-paste method works, in theory, because of its “originality.” It’s different from the type of message most women are used to getting.
As a serial non-responder, I can recall the number of Good Messages I’ve gotten pretty easily. “I see that Pikachu on your shelf.” I’d used the selfie in question for months, and not a single person had ever pointed that out.
One of my favorite lines, given to me from a colleague, is just using a person’s name with an exclamation point. ” is friendly without being creepy; it’s sort of personalized, but also takes zero effort.
Sam Biddle wrote a (RIP) piece on the only line you’d ever need: “There she is.” (I personally find this creepy, but maybe it’s the GIF that greets you when you open the page.) Biddle reports overall success.
Once your message is out there, you can’t control how it’s received.
There is no perfect pickup to attract the human of your dreams, mostly because people are not compliment repositories for you to dump clever lines into in exchange for love, devotion, or sex.
A good opening message is genderless — friendly enough that you could text it to a friend, but not so familiar that you’re being creepy.
Which leads me to my next point: don’t be disgusting.
As the show — and that joke — grow in popularity, your chances of standing out by using it are dropping drastically. There are far more reasons to ignore someone you’ve matched with than there are reasons to engage. Was that swipe an accident, or a mischievous friend?