Maybe you think your kids won’t lie to you, or disobey you, or sneak around and doing things behind your back, but I have been parenting long enough to know that they will. He never quite seemed to understand what he was doing wrong.To my credit, I didn’t once say, “Dump that drama queen! Not just in boyfriend/girlfriend situations, but in all friendships.
At this age they are still very much under your control, supervision and guidance.
In a few years they will be in high school and you will not be privy to much of the inner workings of their social lives.
We will not allow her to have a boyfriend until she is 16.
She thinks that we are mean and are trying to make her life miserable.
This is the perfect opportunity to teach them what being in a relationship with someone means. My 7th grade son and I were in the grocery store one day when he remarked that some purple flowers were his girlfriend’s favorite color.
I asked him if he thought he would like to buy them for her.
My young teen boys are perfectly happy having their “girlfriend” come over to the house and have dinner with the family and then watch movies or play games in the family room with the entire family. I know that many people think this is a horrible reason to allow your kids to do anything. The key is finding the way to say it so they will listen.
Except that in this instance, I have seen time and time again parents who refuse to allow their kids to date and kids who lie, sneak around and do it anyway. One of my sons briefly had a girlfriend that was always angry at him for something.
(They are a bunch, hardly a huge expenditure.) He looked at me like I had just suggested he dance naked in the checkout aisle. I don’t presume to understand the inner-workings of a middle school aged boy’s mind, so I dropped the subject.
A few days later he had oral surgery and his girlfriend came over with balloons and ice cream for him.
The first result was “Spotafriend”, a Tinder alternative for teens, and the second was called “Hook up Now”. The majority amongst the others were mostly chat apps, with the exception of “spin the bottle” and “Asian flirt & hookup”. According to the company’s Linked In page: “Meet teens near you with Spotafriend, the Tinder alternative for people ages 13-19……and swipe right to accept. Teens today are way more open to different lifestyles and cultures. 19-year-old’s are men and have no business mingling with 13-year-old girls and vice versa.