My personal opinion of this, of course, still is – just as with the Khmer woman marrying a Westerner – that it is make-believe, that the Khmer man sees this as an opportunity to go overseas to find a purportedly better job and a better life. Proof of real love is hard to ascertain even by the most enlightened and sharp-thinking people.When love is involved, the chemistry in our minds runs amok anyway.
Especially in Cambodia itself, it is rather rare to find a mixed marriage between a Western woman and a Khmer man. The cases I have come across are always of the arranged nature, that is, U. Cambodians hire somebody to marry one of their kin back in Cambodia, thus enabling them to immigrate to the U. Although there were some crackdowns by Immigration and Customs Enforcement (ICE), according to my knowledge the practice goes on unabated.But supposedly real love unions do indeed appear to happen.More well-to-do couples will hire a nanny, but with less well-off parents the mother will just have to stay home.I would imagine Western women of marrying age these days would have a problem with that mindset in general.They have no reservations to marry a well-educated woman either.
That woman guarantees higher social prestige and most likely higher financial gain through better positions in government or business.
He might feel inferior to his wife, which is a sure-fire source of conflict. I know a Khmer/Khmer marriage, where the wife made more than the husband does.
He promptly emigrated to New Zealand to work at his uncle’s bakery there to save enough money and come back to start a business here. They just arrive at the breakfast table, sit down without saying a word and start digging in.
But we can’t change nature and only women can bear children.
Cambodia does not have a social system that would allow the women to just take some time out or that even the husband share in the caring for the child the first three years, like in some European countries.
This is the underlying concept any Cambodian man holds of the role of women in society.