And, generally, we can all agree—at least conceptually—that age is but a number when it comes to romantic pairings. As the average age of marriage increases alongside access to education, and the gender pay gap decreases (but is still somehow a thing?!?!
Until, of course, your 62-year-old uncle brings his new girlfriend to the egg hunt, and she slurps when she chortles at “forever alone” memes, and doesn’t even know who sings Then it’s just...gross? ), the oh-so-romantic exchange of the older man’s financial support for the younger woman’s fertility has lost some luster.
If you really vibe with someone, don’t let numbers, statistics, demographics and other people’s opinions limit how you connect and who you connect with.
Beyond the physical, biological and the, uh, thing, couples with an age disparity might need to negotiate a generational divide.
As with couples of different nationalities, this difference mostly boils down to knowledge that can be acquired through exposure, and a difference in communication styles.
And some simply do not give a fuck about the age gap at all.
“I gravitate towards women who are exploratory, have an internal locus of control and are not set in her ways,” says David, a 37-year-old industrial organizational psychologist in DC.
Similarly, assuming that a greater number of experiences necessitates a deeper level of maturity overlooks the reality: that it’s the meaning we glean from experience that makes it worthwhile, not simply its occurrence.
An international party boy who has seen the Seven Wonders from a cross-faded perch on his yacht is not necessarily a shining beacon of cultural competency simply because he’s covered a lot of surface area. What about physical limitations, libido and “biological time clocks”? These are valid concerns and causes for consideration (although Harrison Ford and Calista Flockhart seem to be doing alright).
Freshly divorced and in her mid-30s, she was looking to explore and have fun, while Patrick, in his late 20s at the time, was ready for a more serious relationship.
Assuming that age, maturity and intention for a relationship go hand in hand wrongly assumes that development and growth occur on a fixed and linear timeline headed towards a destination, and that this timeline is the same for everyone.
What makes high school relationships less than straight forward is a concept known as “Age of Consent.” The age of consent is the age in which one can legally be consent to have sexual relations.
The age of consent in New York City is seventeen years old.
When teenagers become sexually active, it brings to their lives a whole host of new complications and confusions.